Over the past year, I’ve faced personal attacks from various people. At first, my reaction was pure frustration—“This person is batshit crazy.” But as time passed, I started to shift my perspective. Instead of seeing these moments as something I had to endure, I reframed them as something I get to learn from.

Sometimes, people are so deeply scarred, so trapped in their own suffering, that they lash out at others. They see conflict as a necessity, an outlet for their pain. But what do you do in these moments? How do you negotiate with someone who seems irrational, relentless, even harmful?

The truth is—you don’t.

You can’t control other people’s behavior, but you can control yourself. You can choose silence over reaction, observation over judgment, and self-awareness over impulsivity. The real power lies in restraint, in staying centered when everything around you is pulling you toward chaos.

A Lesson in Compassion

There was a woman who seemed dead set on trying to hurt me. Her obsession lasted for years—first, it was annoying, then frustrating, and at times, even unsettling. My instinct was to label her—“She’s sick. She’s delusional. She’s pathetic.” But those thoughts didn’t serve me. They were just judgment wrapped in frustration, fueling my own negativity instead of my growth.

So I shifted.

Instead of dwelling on her actions, I focused on understanding her suffering. Why would someone let me occupy their mind so pervasively for years? How do I have such control over someone that they continue to obsess over my demise? The answer wasn’t about me—it was about her. And in recognizing that, I found a way to move forward. Not with anger, not with resentment, but with detachment, compassion, and peace.

The same applies to a former client whose misguided attorney has exhaustively tried to damage my reputation for years. Or the ex-convict who wants to “rain hell on me.” Or Frank Tufano, who—bizarrely—accused me of being part of the Illuminati. That one, at least, was funny.

But when you’re guided by compassion, peace, and trust in the flow of the universe, fear loses its grip. I don’t carry anger toward these people—I carry gratitude for the lessons. Every challenge is an opportunity to grow, to practice patience, and to choose love over reaction.

At the end of the day, I have no enemies—only lessons. And that shift changes everything.